If me having a boundary makes someone uncomfortable (Rejected, offended, angry…)
It’s their responsibility to manage their discomfort.
It’s my responsibility to manage my discomfort at their discomfort but…
That doesn’t mean I have to disregard my boundary to placate them.
Learning that was a game changer in my story.
Next time you try to honour one of your boundaries and it doesn’t go the way you wanted…
Take a step back and reflect on whose emotions you’re managing. Theirs or yours?
Boundaries are easy when the person complies.
But not everyone does.
It can be easy to dishonour your own boundary so as to manage the other persons reaction.
Really nailing boundaries will take learning to be comfortable with feeling uncomfortable.
